#WeAreTheThey: They shouldn't be wearing!

29 Apr 2015

As a big girl I often get told what and what not wear, whether it be tight clothing as it'll accentuate my rolls, high-heels because I might break them, jeggings/leggings or skinny jeans because I have big thighs, sexy lingerie because well.. fat people shouldn't wear THAT... duh! Short vest tops that will show my bingo wings.. Need I go on? I can sit here and list all night the things I I've been told I shouldn't be wearing but where would the fun in that be if I'd actually listened?

A week on from when #WeAreTheyThey hit social media worldwide the amazing Debz has gotten bloggers involved in something new, sharing what we shouldn't wear including any rules we've broken with our body. 

I'm a constant rule breaker in life so if someone tells me not to do something you can bet your bottom dollar I'm going to do it.. take a look below for examples. These are things in which people have said to me. 

"You're so heavy to wear high heels!" Does it look like I am?

"You should wear flowy tops as they don't shape your belly!" Wait what?

"Don't wear tight clothing!" Why is it a crime?

"Aren't you embarrassed to wear short sleeves?" No.. should I be?

"You can't show your legs, look at the size of you!" I don't need to look!

No matter your size or shape no one can dictate to you what you should or shouldn't wear. It's taken me years to finally build up the strength to say that but I finally have because no ones opinion should matter except your own. 

Have you broken a fashion rule? OR have you went against what someone has said you should or shouldn't be doing? Then join in #WeAreTheyThey tonight on Twitter and get involved.. you know you want to! :) 

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To Jamelia #WeAreTheThey

22 Apr 2015

I'm jumping on the bandwagon with my SIZE 22 ass (lets hope it don't tip) and blogging about the #WeAreTheThey hashtag that has taken Twitter and Instagram by storm tonight and which has seen both women AND men tweeting messages, quotes and even sharing pictures of themselves to show that they are beautiful no matter their size!

What sparked this trending spree you might ask? Well, it's all down to a few comments which Jamelia (the singer from years ago) shared with viewers on the ITV programme Loose Women and thought she'd get away with! Tough luck though to her because those comments were never going to be forgotten or ignored by the *they* of people she so unkindly meant.

The *they* in which has brought people within her perfect sizes 6-20 and outside of it together in a ban to spread body confidence, self love and to her that they not only accept each other but that when needed to we will come together and fight of any unwanted and rude comments that no "apology" can undo!

Jamelia believes we should have "specialist" shops if your are above or below sizes 6-20 as she doesn't think "it's right to facilitate people having an unhealthy lifestyle." I can share with you right now that I am a size 22 and I have a HEALTHY lifestyle, sure I don't exercise as much as I should and I most likely eat the wrong food but my health is fine. Wait, why am I even trying to justify myself because it's no ones damn business.. is it? 

*Specialist* shops like Yours Clothing, Evans and Pink Clove are obviously catering to women within their sizing categories because they know there is a market for them. There clothes are beautiful and make the women to wear them feel the same way. Not Just with the specialist shops but what about the likes of Primark? Where this has happened to me.. 

I'm wearing a large sized Kimono from Primark and I can be pretty sure Michelle Keegan (from TV show Ordinary Lies) isn't wearing the same size BUT the same Kimono! Does this mean I shouldn't be allowed to wear it because it's obvious they are facilitating me?

I've dealt with unwanted comments and bullying about my weight my whole life and I'm only starting to love my body and accept myself because of the clothes I wear! That confidence comes from me yes but it's what I wear that makes me feel it in the inside and no amount of comments from Jamelia is going to stop obesity, eating disorders or bullying. 

Unlike Jamelia said we shouldn't feel uncomfortable when we go into a shop and can't find our size because we're not purposefully going to go into a shop if we know they don't cater to us as an individual whether it be our size or taste.  When I can't find my size all I get is annoyed because I know the shop has sold out as it's the most popular. 

Instead of all this anguish and unwanted criticism why not concentrate on building each other up instead of trying to knock down a minority that has proven to no end we will fight. We are Sisters, Mothers, Daughters, Aunts, Grandmothers but most of all we're women and we are all the same! Beauty shouldn't be measured from your dress size but from the kindness in your heart. Don't judge anyones capabilities or health on they look, instead look at the bigger picture and realise that some things are to big for narrow little minds. 

The #WeAreTheThey hashtag is ALL thanks to Debz from The Not So Secret Diary of A Wannabe Princess and we all blimming love and thank her for starting it! :) 

Get involved by using the hashtag and share your favourite pictures of yourself to keep this trending as long as possible!
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A Happy Easter

7 Apr 2015

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I Love Easter! To me it's a time for happiness, new beginnings and celebrating the things that are close to your heart! Plus the chocolate! Yeah gotta mention the chocolate! :D 

I've decided to break my Easter down in days so it's easier to follow! 


My Easter weekend started early by finishing work on Friday at 1pm and I'm not back till tomorrow so it was a nice change. Friday saw the Circuit of Ireland come to Newtownards and I made sure I was in my house in my jammies away from all the action.. though where I live you could hear it all. My sister and I went last year when it was in town and that day ended rather badly so a night in front of the telly was fab! 

A pressie from my sister! It has my name on it! :D


I was so busy on Saturday as I lay in bed and read! I feel like crying because of the happiness I got from finally dedicating a day just to read and the book I read was The Return by Jennifer L. Armentrout which makes it even better! My review will coming soon to A Bookish Redhead

                  No day is complete without a selfie!      My nails from Primark! I LOVE them!

On Sunday I actually had an unexpectedly good day! I always go visit my dad and seeing as we didn't want to sit in all day we went to Mauds then dandered down for a walk along the sea front.

After a half hour or so we hopped in the car and went to Donaghadee, which I haven't actually been to since I was a child and am genuinely am shocked at. 

In Donghadee!

The day went by quickly and no sooner was it tea time so instead of waiting to go home we went to a place called The Captains Table and ordered some food. 

I'm trying to leave it at that but I can't, Sorry! The staff didn't have a clue what was going on and there was no communication within them as an overall team working together. 

They made so many mistakes with our order, simple common mistakes YES which have happened before but not all at once in one establishment. They didn't listen to what we ordered, they brought down the wrong food, (I'm a vegetarian so wherever I go I'm not going to order meat so YES I ordered correctly.) My dad and his partner had to ask where there tea was when we were finished our meal and even then they brought down more mugs! For two people we didn't need 6 mugs we needed the TEA!

Basic training doesn't have to be costly or timely effective and I don't believe just because they were young teenagers it should make a difference on the service you receive.

Now let me talk about the actual Food! It was near cold, I like my food warm and hot and you're probably wondering why I didn't say something? Well it took so much hassle and time to get it sitting in front of me I couldn't deal with the stress plus I honestly don't believe they would have done anything. The gravy had clumps in it and the chips well... my tummys turning thinking about it so I'll leave it at that. I won't be rushing back in a hurry or at all but it was an afternoon well spent... well the part before we had dinner. 

Present from my Dad and his partner!
My lovely mother also got me Ferrero Rochers which I am over the moon about! 


I dedicated another day to reading and started on After by Anna Todd which I have flicked to the end of so I know how it ends now and am so disappointed although my sister is refusing to give me the books till each one is finished and read! I only have around 400 pages left of After so *fingers crossed* I'll have it finished tonight! :D 

I managed to persuade my sister to FINALLY watch Frozen and she loved it! I kept telling her she would so we finally built a snowman! I've been asking her for over a year now! :D

Tuesday well.. It's still Tuesday and so far the most productive thing I've done all day is write this post and dust my room.. hopefully add finish After to the list though! :) 

How did you spend your Easter weekend? 
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