Welcome to Voluptuous Chatterbox - Goals & Plans for the Year Ahead

4 Jan 2021

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Welcome to Voluptuous Chatterbox, I thought I'd write a little intro for 2021 with what to expect on the blog this year, my goals, and what I learned last year. 

First things first, what did I learn last year? 


That DA scores apparently mean alot to some brands and not that much to others. It just all depends on the brand itself, my DA score fluctuated so much last year that I became slightly obsessed with monitoring it until I told myself to let it go and continue blogging. 

I make that sound alot easier than it was, it seemed almost every place I looked though people were always posting about it and I even saw one comment that basically said if you didn't have a certain figure then just stop. It felt so disheartening but in all my years of blogging that's never been something I've been interested in nor do I understand most of it, my little space has always been a place for me to share my thoughts, feelings, and daily goings-on. I do want to look into what it all means and try to understand it abit better though. 

What to expect this month:

I've made a start to 2021 by organising my posts and ideas for the month ahead and so far I'm more prepared than I've ever been, which I hope will continue. I'm focusing on week to week instead of month to month, something which Katie from Life with KTKinnes recommended back in December to do. It's less stressful and allows time not to feel overwhelmed or stressed. I've always been someone that tried to plan so far in the future that I hardly got any writing done as I was so busy writing lists and ideas before realising the month was nearly over.

This month includes tips for when you're meeting the parents, a couple little early (and easy) Valentine's Day baking treats as well as the ultimate Veggie Friendly Hot chocolate at home! 

What to expect this year? 

Continuing on from what I mentioned above, I'm not going to try and plan out what to expect this year apart from more dating and relationship related content, more beauty and fashion and hopefully days out in the summer! I would love to go on some summery dates and trips away with Lee to enjoy the sunshine! 

My goals include 

- posting regularly on social media
- taking time out to read blogs 
- to focus on writing things that I want without worrying about others opinions 


What I learnt last year? 

I learnt alot about myself and the people around me, I'm stronger than I've ever been and I will no longer tolerate those that don't have my best interests at heart or are happy for my accomplishments, no matter how much it hurts to say goodbye to them, I know sometimes it's for the best. I want to surround myself with positive and like-minded people who can be happy for each other and cheer each other on when we need it most. 

What to expect this month? 

I'm trying to organise my time more beneficially and not take on too many things that I so often do because I don't like saying no to someone, so this month I'm going to start saying no to things I don't want to do or that I know I don't have time for. 

There are so many books I have that I've not read so I'm planning on having my yearly book clearout and sort through all the books I want to read next on my TBR and then make sure I take time to read them! 

What to expect this year..

Last year I focused so much on my mental health and finances that I want to continue practising self-care and looking after myself both physically and mentally. This year I want to focus on the career aspect of things and fight through my anxiety including my blogging and strengthening the relationships I have in my life. 

My goals include: 

- pay off a debt
- be more physically active 
- try different foods
- wear more of what I want to wear

There are a few more goals I could write but they are what I'm focusing on and I don't want to write so many that I don't accomplish none. 

Do you have any goals? What did you learn or take away from 2020? Let me know below. 
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Happy New Year - A Look Back at 2020

1 Jan 2021

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Happy New Year, I hope you had a safe but fun start to the new year. My plans involved watching Cursed, a new to me series on Netflix to fill my Bridgerton sized gap, and eating a giant Toblerone before my boyfriend surprised me with a video call at midnight.

I've started writing "Looking back on 2020 I'm sure we can all say it's been a..." but no words will come because how do you describe 2020? Each of us as individuals went through the same thing but reacted to it very differently, we experienced it together though alone. The pandemic has changed everything, I don't even know what "normal" looks like anymore so when someone mentions "getting back to normal" I'm not entirely sure I want to go back but more I want to move forward. 

I wanted to make 2020 the year of focusing on the financial side of my life and I did, I managed to pay off two debts that I got into from an abusive relationship which feels like a huge weight off my shoulders. The pandemic made me focus on my mental health massively and I have made so many breakthroughs in the last year, reaching out for help, dealing with past trauma, and also sharing apart of that on Voluptuous Chatterbox to be more open about the experiences I've been through. 

My year for blogging went pretty well and I've written about topics such as Fashion, beauty, lifestyle to even gamer dating. Check out my blogging highlights below. 

In the very first post 2020 - The Past, The Future & The Present I detailed all that I wanted to achieve in the year ahead before writing 10 Pieces of Advice I Would Have Given Myself 10 Years Ago.

A new topic I enjoyed writing more off in 2020 was my dating and relationship experiences. From my biggest dating disaster stories (definitely read if you want a giggle) to my first ever virtual date attempt including a few in-person dates such as crazy golfing and bowling to a pizza date, I had so much fun getting out of my comfort zone and sharing a part of my life I rarely do online. 

My five favourite blog posts of 2020 include 

I've been planning my January/February blogging and have a few ideas which I'm really excited about sharing as this year I want to really focus my energy on writing, trying new things, and also continuing to concentrate on my finances and strengthening the relationships I have with my family and friends. 

2020 was and will always be a pretty special year for me now as I met my boyfriend, never did I imagine that messaging a man back in January on a dating app would lead to a few dates, virtually dating them through lockdowns to coming out the other end, and now over 3 months into a happy, healthy relationship. He's changed my life for the better and made me appreciate who I am inside and out including introducing me to so many new things such as attending Crusaders football matches, twitch streaming communities, and a relaxed, laidback side to myself which I very much like! (Read some of our dating adventures above)

For now, I'm going to sign off as this blog post has taken me about 4 hours to write thanks to Ethan my cat who decided to knock everything off the unit, try and eat paper to then giving me evils! I think someones feeling neglected.

Did you have plans for NYE? Did you have a good start to the new year? Let me know below! 

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